I was disrespected and falsely accused. The way the situation was handled was not only unjust. It failed to follow the same biblical principles we had been teaching for years. It was an authoritarian process that left no room for reason. Real issues were dodged or dismissed, while incidental ones were amplified because these supported the agenda against me.
So I stepped down from my leadership role in the ministry. Integrity is more important than position for me. Leadership should be grounded in accountability, not authority. But that was not what I experienced.
Not long after, I was removed from all ministry-related groups. No warning. No conversation. It sent the message that I was no longer welcome.
The ministry was made up of members from the discipleship group I belonged to. Both were led by the same person. After being indirectly removed from the ministry, I chose to leave the discipleship group as well. Staying felt dishonest—to them and to myself.
For six months, I stayed silent. I wanted to leave things as they were. I was choosing peace and quiet healing on my own terms.
Then people began sharing with me what they had heard.
They say I left. Just like that.
They say everything was fine.
As if I walked away for no reason.
As if they had done nothing.
That version is easier to share. It protects them. But it erases what they did to me.
What makes it harder is where it happened. This was not just a team or a group. It was a church, a place where grace, truth, honesty, and accountability should matter more, not less.
This is not a rejection of the Church or the faith I hold dear. This is about a specific situation, with specific people, in a specific context. It is a call for honesty and accountability among those entrusted with spiritual care.
Some will say this stirs division, especially those who confuse silence with peace. But peace does not come from hiding what happened. It comes from telling the truth.
I wasn’t planning to speak. But people reached out, asked questions, and shared what they had heard. So now, I’m telling the story myself—because I was asked.
